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The Number One Thing To Do When You’re Stuck

Jorn Veenstra


Whatever it is we do, we come across things that work against us. Whether it’s during work, in our relationships or with studying. Life can be a bitch. It can feel unfair and sometimes you can’t do anything about it.

I feel like I’m having this a lot lately. Maybe it is because I’ve been changing my daily routines quite radically. And change goes hand in hand with obstacles, setbacks and other stuff we don’t like to have too much of.

Emphasizing the things that work against us, is obviously a bad approach. It’s the reason we’re going through this, that counts.

We can learn from dealing with setbacks and struggles. This process makes us stronger and more knowledgeable. It teaches us what we need to know to grow towards something we want.

But what if you struggle to find the motivation to overcome the obstacles on your path? What if you feel like giving up? What if you’re on the verge of slipping back into your old routines?

This SUCKS, I know. And when this happens, I like to do the following.

STOP!.. and think…

Snap out of the downward spiral, go back to the beginning, and ask yourself what the problem is. (often there isn’t even a real problem)

Is there a better way to approach the situation. Maybe you can work with the things holding you back, instead of going against them. Maybe the obstacle only exists in your mind. Think outside the box and see if you can find a better way.

If not, take a break, do something else and come back to it later. Don’t force it too much. If you’re not feeling it, try to reset your system. Take a shower, go to the gym or read a book.

Try to find your own way of dealing with it. There’s not just one way for everyone. And it helps to try different approaches. See which one works best for you.

Something that really motivates me, is finding others that have gone through a similar situation. This is proof it can be done.

I like to think, if they can do it, I can too!

And why not learn from their mistakes. There’s no point in reinventing the wheel. Ask for help. Read about the experiences of others, and go from there.

The things you encounter in life can be complicated or challenging. I’m here to help you find a simple way.

Stay tuned for more simplicity in this chaos of complexity we call life.



Jorn Veenstra

Empowering people. Creating new perspective. Providing guidance in the chaos we call life. Check out my new page: