Who doesn’t want to be in a loving relationship? I mean the pro’s are just endless. You never have to feel lonely again. You can support each other in hard times. You can have sex whenever you want. You always have someone to go out with.
Unfortunately, the reality is different. Many relationships aren’t actually that great. It might look like they are, from the outside. But we all know that’s not always the case.
It might be because there’s distrust, dishonesty or jealousy. And with all the distractions present, people cheat. These things lead to tensions and arguments. Sometimes even fights. And too often, relationships like these endure, because breaking up is too scary.
It’s hard to find the courage because the response of others might be frightening. And it might be hard to imagine living a life without the other. People end up getting stuck. And some relationships turn out being abusive, both physical or emotional.
With this being said, it’s clear that being in a healthy relationships is not simple. It’s complex and it takes time and effort to make it work.
But this is only important when you’ve already committed.
Before you start you have make sure you’re ready, and you have to find a partner who’s ready. Most of the situations I described earlier happen because people commit too early.
They’re looking for something in another person. Something that completes them. Something that supports them, and keeps them afloat. Something that THEY don’t have.
But this approach is flawed.
Fully relying on one thing is not a smart move. We all know this. And the same goes for people. If you fully rely on someone, and that person disappears, you will fall and get hurt. And you might not be able to get back up again, because when you weren’t able to support yourself before, who says you can now…
When you fall, don’t ask people to carry you. Ask them how to get back up.
If you want to have a relationship that’s built to last, you have to do some work first. You have to work on yourself, as an individual. You have to discover who you…